Invisible Grief: Opening Up the Conversation About Miscarriage
Trigger Warning: This post contains discussions about miscarriage and mental health struggles. Please proceed with caution if these topics may be triggering for you.
I recently found myself engrossed in the “FireFly Lane” series on Netflix. In Season 1, Episode 9, during a vulnerable moment, Tully, while presenting her chat show ‘The Girlfriend Hour,’ bravely asked the audience if anyone had ever experienced a miscarriage.
This raw and powerful confession allowed her to connect with her viewers and share their stories. It struck a chord with me and got me thinking deeply about our reluctance to discuss our issues openly, even in 2024.
Tully’s willingness to share her struggles on a public platform resonated with many, including myself. It highlighted the importance of breaking down barriers and fostering open dialogue about sensitive topics like miscarriage, mental health, and emotional well-being.
We fear the judgment of being vulnerable and, as a result, often internalise so much rather than opening up a discussion. Tully’s courageous act made me realise how many of us are scared to vocalise our issues, even in today’s supposedly open-minded society.
Another reflection that recently dawned on me is the stark contrast between appearance and reality. At work last week, a colleague asked me what I thought because I seemed calm.
When I admitted I was exhausted and couldn’t wait for my bed, he was surprised because he couldn’t tell from the expression on my face. It made me realise how experienced we are at masking our true feelings behind a brave face.
Asking for help can be daunting, especially when everyone else is fine. It’s easy to believe everyone is as happy as their Instagram posts suggest. But the truth is, we experience a myriad of emotions daily, sometimes all 27 in one day. I’ve certainly felt the full spectrum lately.
Life’s journey is long, and many share everyday struggles and issues. We must create safe spaces for people to express their struggles without fear of judgment or ridicule.
Fortunately, there are resources available for those who need support. Charities like Tommys, Everyone’s Invited and Mind all strive to connect people with guidance on dealing with mental health challenges and remind us that we are not alone.
Let’s strive to break down barriers, foster open dialogue, and support each other through life’s ups and downs.
Together, we can create a more compassionate and understanding world.
